There were two reasons why I wanted to check out “Survival of the Thickest“ on Netflix:

1. The main character, Michelle Buteau, is a plus-size woman of color who has done and is doing things I aspire to do.

2. My gorgeous—and equally talented—bestie, Ambre Anderson guest starred as “Dr. Britta” in episodes 7 and 8 (she did a phenomenal job!).

Although I was only initially interested in watching the show for the above reasons, I enjoyed season one of “Survival of the Thickest.” It made me laugh, smile, hope, and dream. I want to become a fashion stylist one day and I also recently discovered my yearning for companionship was dormant and not gone forever like I foolishly believed. So needless to say, I connected with the desires and ideas of “Mavis Beaumont.”

Despite the fact that the show resonated with me while I watched it, I didn’t experience the full impact it had on me until I read comments about the plot. As usual, there are mixed feelings about it—well, among the members of the plus-size community group I’m a part of on social media anyway.

Some viewed it as “boring” and unoriginal. One person shared they are tired of seeing plus-size women “get over one man by getting under another.” I disagree. I found the show entertaining, and as far as being unoriginal, quite frankly, there’s nothing new under the sun. Lastly, I didn’t perceive “Mavis'” interaction with men after her breakup as an act of “getting over her ex.” I saw it as her recognizing her “singlehood” and the freedom she gained—and possibly missed while being in an unhealthy relationship.

Just like I don’t agree with the group member who didn’t like the series, I know someone else is disagreeing with me, and that is perfectly fine. As a creator, everyone isn’t going to like your stuff. Some people will find fault and others will sing your praises. I’m learning the value of staying true to myself whether my content is liked or disliked. It is time for me to fully embrace this and truly be uniquely me.

I admit I was not fond of every aspect of the show, but what I like about it outweighs what I don’t. Furthermore, seeing Ms. Buteau’s work inspired me to keep creating and sharing. If I continue, maybe I’ll get to thank her one day face-to-face.

Seeing “Mavis” in action also reminded me of the importance of following my dreams, developing my ideas, and carrying them out to fruition. Additionally, I mustn’t get discouraged if someone has content similar to mine. We all have “personalized seasoning” that is unique to us, which influences our technique and delivery. The time has come for me to stop procrastinating due to doubt and fear—I envisioned it for a reason and it needs to be carried out. And yes, I snagged the “FLY GRL” t-shirt that “Mavis” wore in the first episode. It is available on Etsy and Amazon. I added a pair of bamboo earrings by Guess—I didn’t think I could truly be a fly girl without them.

I didn’t expect to feel empowered by watching a Netflix original show, but I am glad for it!

Until the next time be you—and more importantly—love you.

Being uniquely you is being uniquely beautiful.

-B.B. 💋